Why Am I So Reactive? How to Stop Emotional Flooding at Work and Home
- zoebandes
- 23 hours ago
- 3 min read
Have you ever been in the middle of a conversation—maybe a heated meeting or a disagreement with a partner—and suddenly felt like your brain went "offline"? Your heart races, your face gets hot, and suddenly you can’t think of the right words. You just want to yell, run away, or shut down entirely. In psychology, this is known as emotional flooding.
If you frequently search for why you get angry so fast or how to stay calm during an argument, you aren't "weak." You are experiencing a biological riptide. Today, we’re looking at the neuroscience of why this happens and how you can use brain rewiring to regain control.
What is Emotional Flooding? (The 20-Minute Riptide)
Emotional flooding occurs when your nervous system detects a threat—even a verbal one—and triggers a massive release of stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline.
Common signs of emotional flooding include:
Physical: A heart rate over 100 BPM, shallow breathing, and muscle tension.
Cognitive: "Tunnel vision" where you can only see the person as an enemy.
Communication: An inability to process new information or listen to the other person’s perspective.
The Neuroscience: Amygdala Hijack vs. The Prefrontal Cortex
When you are flooded, your amygdala (the brain's alarm system) takes the wheel. It effectively shuts down your prefrontal cortex—the part of the brain responsible for logic, empathy, and rational decision-making.
This is why you say things you regret or "freeze" in meetings. Your logical brain literally isn't invited to the conversation.
How to Stop Emotional Flooding: 3 Science-Backed "Kill Switches"
1. The 20-Minute Rule (The Biological Reset)
Research shows that once the body is flooded with adrenaline, it takes a minimum of 20 minutes for those chemicals to dissipate. If you stay in the argument, you are arguing with a "hijacked" brain.
The Action: Say, "I’m feeling flooded and can’t be productive right now. I need a 20-minute break." Then, walk away. Don't ruminate; do something physical or listen to music.
2. Temperature Shift (The Mammalian Dive Reflex)
Splash ice-cold water on your face or hold an ice pack to your chest. This triggers the "Mammalian Dive Reflex," which instantly slows your heart rate and forces your nervous system to pivot from "Fight or Flight" to "Rest and Digest." It is one of the fastest ways to regulate a nervous system during sensory overload.
3. "Name It to Tame It"
Using language to describe your feeling—for example, saying "I am feeling a lot of frustration right now"—forces your prefrontal cortex to "turn back on." By labeling the emotion, you move the activity from the reactive amygdala back to the thinking part of your brain.
Can You "Rewire" Your Reactivity?
While these "kill switches" work in the moment, the goal of Dharma Life Sciences is to prevent the flood from happening in the first place.
Through neuroplasticity, we can help you strengthen the neural pathways between your thinking brain and your feeling brain. By practicing specific mental exercises for 15 minutes a day, you can actually lower your baseline reactivity. This means things that used to flood you will eventually just feel like minor ripples.
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